Life events and crisis
A human life is characterized by ups and downs and there are very few who go through life without encountering a serious life event that can trigger a life crisis.
When you are exposed to a critical life event, there is a risk of developing a stress reaction that is most often associated with a violent change in life. Often, stress reactions mark the transition to a different life or a new view of oneself and life itself.
Most people respond naturally with both physical and mental symptoms to what has happened and the changes that have been implemented. If the critical event occurs suddenly, violently and abruptly, the reactions can be similarly violent and start a stress response that involves mental pain and disorientation for an extended period of time.
The reactions to a critical event differ from person to person and depend on the nature of the event itself, personality and where one is in life. The reactions will usually be transient and usually subside after some time.
Classic symptoms of critical life events are restlessness, shock, unreality, anxiety, tension and anger, irritability, sadness, guilt and shame, discouragement and decreased energy, concentration and memory difficulties, decreased desire and appetite.
It varies how many of these symptoms and reactions are expressed in the individual person. For some, the reaction will be intense and painful and it may be difficult to function normally immediately after the event. In others, the duration and intensity are more limited.
As time goes on, most people will adapt to the changes in everyday life and also find a kind of new mental balance in relation to what happened.
What can I do myself?
It is important that we take care of ourselves and adjust the loads in everyday life. We should be as good to ourselves as to a good friend, who is in a difficult situation.
Most people with stress-related symptoms after critical life events experience that the best help comes from their own network. Security, comfort and support from friends and family relieves the painful feelings and calms the stress response in the body.
At first, it is important to focus on balance in life. An established pattern of sleep, diet and regular exercise is essential.
Try to help yourself with the regulation of strong emotions. Ensure good self-care during meditation, nature walks, cinema, good food etc.
Adjust your everyday life to the changes. It is difficult in the beginning, but continuously you will find out how your life should now be arranged and what makes sense and brings joy.
- Seek support, understanding, advice, help and care from someone you have or want to trust.
- Be open, confidential and vulnerable about how you feel.
- Be clear on whether you actually want advice and solutions or whether you really need to be listened to, understood and met with care and acceptance
- Make a meaningful understanding of the situation.
- If you would not have accused, blamed or judged others for what you yourself have done - try and also meet yourself with understanding, respect, care and acceptance.
- If you have done something you actually regret - focus on how you can repair and make amends instead of attacking yourself - the latter will not help.
- In transitions, we are vulnerable to losing direction - identify, seek out or rediscover your values, desires, dreams, ambitions and what inspires, delights and makes you curious, playful and proud.
What can Eyr help with?
- If the reactions do not subside or change in character within a few weeks, there may be a need for professional support and advice from a psychologist.
- Eyr has a psychologist available who can provide support conversations and therapy
- The psychologist can help develop good coping strategies in a new everyday life
- The psychologist can help to make people aware of their own wishes, motivations and solutions, which typically becomes unclear to us when we are overwhelmed.
- Eyr can refer to a specialist when needed
- Psychologists at Eyr work closely with Eyr's doctors to give you the best possible treatment in a difficult situation.